Relationship Counselling

Do you find yourselves stuck in the same argument loop without ever really getting to the root cause of what’s going on?

If so, counselling can help.

Challenges in relationships are NORMAL

Relationships can be one of our greatest sources of joy, but they are also a complex web of unique perspectives, habits, emotions, fears, past relationship experiences and even childhood traumas. Inevitably when arguments and/or disagreements do arise, you may find you default into patterns of defence mechanisms and learned coping strategies which may cause further disconnection, confusion, and relationship ruptures.

Repeating cycles can take root which can cause even the smallest of annoyances or frustrations to quickly escalate. Each person’s desire to be seen, heard, and understood by the other can quickly turn into a storm leaving you both feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and lost, not knowing how to return to a loving, connected and meaningful place.

 It may not be easy to admit your relationship needs help or you may feel as though the problems have gone on for so long you wonder if it is possible to find your way back to one another again. These feelings are normal, and it does take courage to take this step together as a couple.

But you don’t have to do it alone.

Couples counselling puts the relationship front and centre. With your counsellor you can explore negative cycles and loops and what contributes to the “dance” you both find yourselves stuck in and return to a place of connection and facing life, and its challenges as a team.

Couples/Relationship Counselling is currently offered by: Lucia and Donna

How we can help

We use an approach called Emotion Focused Couples therapy (EFT), which allows partners the space for the conversations that may not be happening in the real world. In couples counselling, we will work together as a team to unpack what the feelings of anger, loneliness, and disconnection are really about and explore how each partner can begin to feel valued, accepted and secure in their relationship once again.

The couples we work with are individuals interested in exploring how to make their relationship thrive again in the midst of life transitions, mental health struggles, grief, various stages of parenthood, as well as those who experience distance and tension as a result of everyday life stressors. 

As a team, we will uncover the patterns you are stuck in and combine forces to challenge the cycle rather than your partner, and move forward to explore new ways of interacting with each other that foster trust, safety and intimacy. All relationships experience difficulties, but there is still hope of reconnecting to the person who you once experienced as your ‘safe place’ in the world, the person who made it feel like you could tackle anything with, or the person that once inspired you to be the best version of yourself.

To learn more about how Lucia and Donna work with couples, or to ask questions about how we might be able to support you, connect with us for a free consultation call.