Counselling is an opportunity for you to build trust and connection with a supportive person who can guide you in developing greater resilience and awareness. During sessions we will work together to empower you to heal past wounds, find acceptance in the present and create positive growth moving forward.
Finding a counsellor who you connect with is important; when we experience safe and secure connections with others, we are able to regulate our emotions more effectively and more open to exploring new perspectives or ways of being. With me as your counsellor, you have someone in your corner, supporting you every step of the way, even when the problem is your own feelings, thoughts or inner critic.
My approach to counselling is attachment-focused and trauma-informed. What this means is that I take into account childhood and adult relationships as well as past traumas that may be influencing your current coping strategies, beliefs and how you relate to others. Once I have had the chance to learn about you as a person and we have developed trust between us:
We will start by exploring ways to increase your ability to cope with your day-to-day emotions and experiences. I like to think of this as the ‘bandaid’ stage of counselling, where we examine and tackle the symptoms of what you’re struggling with. We will ensure that you have concrete strategies in place that highlight your strengths, needs and pre-existing resources - ready for when you have a challenging day.
Second, we will explore the root cause of what you’re struggling with. This stage of counselling is unique for everyone and is where we get to the core of the problem. Often barriers to feeling worthy, at ease and joyful in our lives arise from our family of origin, past relationships, trauma and various other experiences. Understanding what is at the heart of our challenges often helps create perspective and compassion for ourselves, which can be key to our ability to grow and trust ourselves.
Finally, as you begin to overcome challenges, we look at how to create conscious, long-lasting positive change and ways of being that fit with your values as you move forward towards a more resilient, authentic and connected version of yourself.